The 16 MBTI® Types

 

 

 

 

 

ISTJ

Quiet, serious, earn success by thoroughness and dependability. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic, and responsible. Decide logically what should be done and work toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Take pleasure in making everything orderly and organized – their work, their home, their life. Value traditions and loyalty.

ISFJ

Quiet, friendly, responsible, and conscientious. Committed and steady in meeting their obligations. Thorough, painstaking, and accurate. Loyal, considerate, notice and remember specifics about people who are important to them, concerned with how others feel. Strive to create an orderly and harmonious environment at work and at home.

INFJ

Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

INTJ

Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.

ISTP

Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears, then act quickly to find workable solutions. Analyze what makes things work and readily get through large amounts of data to isolate the core of practical problems. Interested in cause and effect, organize facts using logical principles, value efficiency.

ISFP

Quiet, friendly, sensitive, and kind. Enjoy the present moment, what’s going on around them. Like to have their own space and to work within their own time frame. Loyal and committed to their values and to people who are important to them. Dislike disagreements and conflicts, do not force their opinions or values on others.

INFP

Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible, and accepting unless a value is threatened.

INTP

Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract, interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible, and adaptable. Have unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical, always analytical.

ESTP

Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Theories and conceptual explanations bore them – they want to act energetically to solve the problem. Focus on the here-and-now, spontaneous, enjoy each moment that they can be active with others. Enjoy material comforts and style. Learn best through doing.

ESFP

Outgoing, friendly, and accepting. Exuberant lovers of life, people, and material comforts. Enjoy working with others to make things happen. Bring common sense and a realistic approach to their work, and make work fun. Flexible and spontaneous, adapt readily to new people and environments. Learn best by trying a new skill with other people.

ENFP

Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative. See life as full of possibilities. Make connections between events and information very quickly, and confidently proceed based on the patterns they see. Want a lot of affirmation from others, and readily give appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible, often rely on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.

ENTP

Quick, ingenious, stimulating, alert, and outspoken. Resourceful in solving new and challenging problems. Adept at generating conceptual possibilities and then analyzing them strategically. Good at reading other people. Bored by routine, will seldom do the same thing the same way, apt to turn to one new interest after another.

ESTJ

Practical, realistic, matter-of-fact. Decisive, quickly move to implement decisions. Organize projects and people to get things done, focus on getting results in the most efficient way possible. Take care of routine details. Have a clear set of logical standards, systematically follow them and want others to also. Forceful in implementing their plans.

ESFJ

Warmhearted, conscientious, and cooperative. Want harmony in their environment, work with determination to establish it. Like to work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. Loyal, follow through even in small matters. Notice what others need in their day-by-day lives and try to provide it. Want to be appreciated for who they are and for what they contribute.

ENFJ

Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.

ENTJ

Frank, decisive, assume leadership readily. Quickly see illogical and inefficient procedures and policies, develop and implement comprehensive systems to solve organizational problems. Enjoy long-term planning and goal setting. Usually well informed, well read, enjoy expanding their knowledge and passing it on to others. Forceful in presenting their ideas.

Myers Briggs (MBTI) Super Powers

 

 

 

 

 

Are you curious which superpower your MBTI Type would possess?  Thankfully we have already answered that question purely for your enjoyment. 😉

 

INFJ- Precognition

INFJs have a natural ability to sense what is to come. So of course the best fitting super power of the INFJ is precognition, the ability to see into the future. Precognition gives the ability to foresee possible future events and read what will occur. Being able to tell the future, helps allow the one with this power to potentially change the outcome. In some cases these visions are of a destined future that cannot be changed, but in some cases the INFJ would be pleased to alter the course of the future in a positive way.

ENFJ- Telepathy

ENFJ are very people focused and love making those around them happy. Telepathy is the ability to receive or transmit thoughts back and forth between people. This ability would give ENFJs a chance to connect with others on a deeper and more intimate level. The chance to understand the desires of others more openly, is the perfect ability for the ENFJ.

INFP- Astral Projection (or Astral Travel)

INFPs are very imaginative dreamers. The ability to use astral projection to travel outside of ones body, seems a perfect skill for the INFP. With the ability to leave their own physical body and travel outside of it, the INFP would feel unbound. They already are more connected with the spiritual than they are the physical, and would relish in the ability to be completely free.

ENFP- Animal Control (or Animal Communication)

ENFP are enthusiastic and affectionate, and would love the ability to connect with animals. The ability to control and communicate with animals would allow them to connect with creatures besides humans on a deeper level. It is a very rare and unique gift and the ENFP would thrive on this ability.

 

INTJ- Time Travel

INTJ are very intuitive and knowledge driven. The ability to travel through all of time would remove normal limits of knowledge. INTJs would love the ability to experience first hand any event from the past, or even the future. The would no longer be set to one time and place, but rather would be capable of diving into any moment in time that they desire. The questions is whether or not they would use their power for good, or for evil?

ENTJ- Mind Control

With the ability of mind control, ENTJs would no longer be bound by pesky free will. They could control the world around them, by manipulating others into doing whatever they want. This power is something that ENTJs would thrive on and would feel completely at home with such immense control.

INTP- Omniscience

With the ability of omniscience, INTPs would not longer be bound by the time is takes to learn everything themselves. They would have a natural understanding of everything. Their minds would be unblocked to the entire universe and all of the knowledge that it possesses. They would know every single answer to every question, and would no longer be limited by anything.

ENTP- Immortality

With the power of immortality the ENTP would no longer be bound by time constraints. Being able to live forever would give them the chance to actually execute all of the master plans they concoct. They would be unstoppable and capable of finally taking over the world if they so desire.

 

ISTJ- Night Vision

The ability to see in the dark would make the ISTJ capable of continuing their duties no matter what. Even in the darkness they can accomplish their tasks with ease. They also would be able to gain the advantage on others, since they can remain hidden in the darkness but can see everything around them.

ESTJ- Super strength

ESTJ are natural leaders, and would thrive on the ability to be unbelievably strong. Nothing would stop them from impressing others with their intense strength. They would be capable of protecting their town and the people around them.

ISFJ- Empathy

With the ability to feel others emotions entirely, the ISFJ would be capable of providing their loved one with exactly what they need. Knowing that someone is sad or happy, could help them gauge if there was a problem that needed fixing.

ESFJ- Healing

ESFJ are very conscious of others and want to make their loved ones happy. With the ability to heal, the ESFJ would be able to take away others pain or suffering with ease. This would make them unbelievably happy, since they can help others with their ability.

 

ISTP- Pyrokinesis

ISTP are very fast paced and in touch with the physical world. The ability to control fire would excite the ISTP and keep them interested. Although, it may get them into a little trouble, it’s nothing they can’t get themselves out of.

ESTP- Super Speed

ESTPs are already constantly moving and don’t like to be held down. The power of super speed would allow them to be completely unstoppable. They would enjoy the excitement and thrill of going at unbelievable speeds without the need of a vehicle to accomplish it.

ISFP- Invisibility

ISFP can be shy and introverted. The ability to make themselves invisible whenever they please, would make them very comfortable. They would be able to appreciate things that others can’t, and see places that they otherwise would not be able to see.

ESFP- Flying

ESFPs are fun-loving and excitable. They enjoy being the life of the party, and what better party trick than being able to fly? They enjoy excitement and thrive on adventure, making the power of flight perfect for them.

 

Trust Issues in Marriage: Advice for Couples

 

 

 

What Are the Causes of Trust Issues?

Building a relationship that is honest and dependable is important to every successful marriage. Consistency is an important ingredient in building trust in a relationship. It is easy to trust your spouse if you know what to expect from him or her in certain situations, and if your spouse will do what he or she says.

Trust issues are likely to block intimacy and growth in marital relationships and could stem from various factors including spouses who:

  • lack integrity in their behaviour, for example, infidelity and gambling
  • consistently lie to their partners
  • are secretive, for example, they might lock their phones
  • have experienced infidelity in past relationships
  • hide details about themselves from their husbands or wives
  • constantly break promises they make to their spouses.

If there are trust issues in your marriage you can take steps to rebuild trust and rekindle the romance in your marriage. However, this needs the commitment of both you and your spouse. In the video below, Dr John Gottman, relationship researcher, explains the importance of trust in relationships. You can start now on the path of a more trusting relationship by implementing the steps and strategies outlined in this hub.

John Gottman: The Importance of Trust

Trust Issues in Marriage Poll

Do you have trust issues in your marriage?

1. Admit and Commit to Deal with Trust Issues

The first step to take is to admit that there are trust issues in your relationship. If the issues are not resolved this could lead to resentment and further loss of trust.

If you are the one at fault, instead of remaining in denial, you need to take responsibility for your behavior. This means that if you were unfaithful, for example, apologize sincerely to your spouse. Never try to minimize the issue or your spouse’s feelings about the situation.

Both of you need take steps to deal with the issue, as you are in it together, no matter who is to blame. Take steps to strengthen your marriage, for example, in the case of infidelity, you might need to infuse greater appreciation for your spouse and increase the time you spend together.

Let your partner know that he or she is important to you; this could have been a missing link that contributed to the behavior. Start becoming more attuned to each other’s needs.

2. Create Safe Emotional Space

Cynthia Lyn Wall in her book, The Courage to Trust, explains that trust is the foundation of every significant relationship. Her book illustrates self-discovery exercises to help readers understand trust as a feeling, as a choice and as a skill that can be learned.

With this understanding you can create safe emotional space, and you are able to express your feelings without the fear of being ridiculed or rejected. Trust is able to grow and blossom in an atmosphere where there is affirmation and give and take for each other.

Start with demonstrating trust in your spouse, as you give trust to your spouse it is likely that you will receive it. In this type of atmosphere you can overcome the barriers to trust and intimacy in your marriage.

3. Improve Communication Patterns

Better communication is likely to improve trust in your relationship. It is through effective communication that you and your spouse express your deepest thoughts and feelings.

Listening is an important component of good communication, so you need to practice to listen to each other actively. Also, learn to express you needs and desires plainly, and be clear about what you need, as your spouse is not a mind reader

If you’re the one who is hurt by the trust issues, try to actively listen to your spouse. Let he or she know you want to hear what he or she has to say. But also share your thoughts and feelings honestly. If you caused the breach in trust, recognize that your partner may need to understand what happened.

This does not mean continuing to rehash of the details. But this could help your spouse to understand the situation better so that the healing process can start.

4. Solve Interpersonal Conflicts

Relationship researcher, John Gottman, describes four types of couples in relation to how they solve interpersonal conflicts, these are:

  • Volatile couples fight openly but are responsive to each other’s feelings.
  • Validating couples focus on communication, compromise, and understanding each other’s point of view
  • Conflict-avoiding couples avoid confrontation and focus on their common attributes and values
  • Hostile couples argue with insults, put-downs, and sarcasm without listening to each other.

According to Gottman, the first three types of couples have a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. However, the toxic interactions of hostile couples during conflicts seriously put their relationships at risk.

You need to consider where you fall on this continuum and ensure that your conflict resolution style facilitates building trust in your relationship. For example, try to focus on the issue, and don’t bring up old ones. Use I-statements and try not to resort to name-calling.

Working through your trust issues could lead to a satisfying relationship. | Source

5. Work Together to Solve Trust Issues

Working through trust issues in your marriage requires patience for it takes time to build back trust. Don’t see yourselves as adversaries, but as partners with common needs and goals, and you are working to achieve them.

Don’t get defensive and blame each other, this will never solve the problem. Instead, listen to each other and try to make things right. Create a practical plan on how you will deal with trust issues you face.

If, for example, infidelity led to the break in trust, as a couple you need to decide on specific steps of accountability. This could include providing access to cell phones and email accounts. What is important is that you both work together to build and improve your relationship.

6. Become More Consistently Trustworthy

When you or your spouse is inconsistent or constantly breaks promises, this opens the door to trust issues. Instead, you both need to commit yourselves to become consistently honest and reliable. This means that you do what you say, and you are where you are supposed to be when you say you will be there.

Make a commitment to stop keeping secrets and hiding things from your spouse, as keeping secrets is a form of dishonesty which breaks trust. It will take some time to build trust again, will need more openness with each other.

For the spouse who breached trust, commit yourself to become open to your partner. When he or she sees that you are consistently honest, it is easier to trust you again. To build the openness, honesty and trust will mean taking practical steps like sharing passwords on computer and phones and checking in at different times a day.

7. Build Self-Esteem

Your self-esteem is the picture you have of yourself and whether you like that picture or not. Feelings of insecurity stemming from low self-esteem could impact negatively on your relationship.

In contrast, if you are a person with high self-esteem you exude confidence and respect for self, and you are more likely to be trustworthy and trust your spouse.

Do things to strengthen your self-image, then you are more likely to be assertive and express your needs for a more satisfying relationship. This also means affirming, accepting and appreciating your spouse.

8. Get Rid of Unforgiveness

Unforgiveness is like a deadly poison to your relationship, so let go of the bitterness and resentment. Yes, the pain of broken trust stemming from issues such as infidelity is deep, but if you decide to move on in your marriage relationship, you need to forgive.

On the other hand, although you might have been the one who was hurt, you could find that you need forgiveness for your critical and judgemental attitude. And this also means forgiving yourself, and then you are more open to extending compassion to your spouse, to forgive him or her.

As you change and grow as a couple, your marriage could rebound and the spark return to your relationship. You could get further help from Gary and Mona Shriver’s book, Unfaithful: Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity. The Shrivers share how couples can get through the struggles of infidelity, and rebuild trust in their marriages.

9. Seek Couple’s Counseling

You might need to get professional help if you are finding it too difficult to work through the trust issues on your own. Both of you must be committed to the change process and not expect the therapist to “fix” the other person.

Therapy could help you to identify the sources of the trust issues and explore deep issues that are causing trust problems in relationship. This process could not only help you to learn to trust again, but also to separate past trust issues from your present relationships.

Over 10 Love Facts You’ve Probably Never Heard Of

 

 

 

It’s no secret that love and relationships can be complicated and there are a lot of theories, opinions, and debates about what does and doesn’t work while you’re dating. However, there are a few things about love and relationships that are indisputable. We did a little research and found 11 love and relationship facts, based on science and data, that you may not have heard of before.

Fact #1: Love works like a drug.
You know what’s better than cocaine? Love. It’s no secret that being in a loving relationship unleashes a host of neurological reactions in our bodies. One studyfound that increased levels of adrenaline, oxytocin, and dopamine are found in the brains of people who are in love. This leads to euphoria-like symptoms, not unlike what happens with cocaine.

Fact #2: Love, or at least attraction, can be at first sight.
The brain calculates an amazing amount of information in a short amount of time, including knowing in a few moments whether you’re attracted to someone. The prefrontal cortex region of the brain plays a major part in making that decision, as was shown in another study when the region buzzed up when people saw photos of individuals they were attracted to or liked. Researchers took the information into a speed dating setting, and found a link between who people buzzed for and who ultimately exchanged numbers at the end of the session.

Fact #3: Being close to someone doesn’t necessarily mean it’s meant to be.
The perfect fit in a relationship may not be the right fit for you. A 2013 Columbia University study of 732 couples found that couples who felt too close to each other were just as likely to break up as people who didn’t feel close enough. However, it’s important to note that some couples in the study realigned what their definition of closeness was over a two-year period, improving the quality of their relationship.

Fact #4: People have tried to come up with a formula for love.
One popular theory of love is the triangular theory of love developed by a psychologist named Robert Sternberg. He presented it in 1985 and hypothesized that a combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment constituted romantic love in its complete form. And what’s perhaps even more interesting is that when one of these three factors is missing you get stuck with other forms of love such as empty love, liking or friendship, or compassionate love. Unfortunately, the theory was tested by others, and the results were less than stellar. The researchers concluded the theory needed more sound measures.

Fact #5: Japan has two Valentine’s Days.
While Valentine’s Day does exist in Japan, the nation has a follow up to the romantic holiday called White Day. It’s tough to understand the full meaning of the holiday from the title so here’s a short explanation: In Japan, Valentine’s Day is for women to present chocolates and treats to men. Men reciprocate a month later on White Day, giving gifts to the women that found the courage to express their love.

Fact #6: It was once thought that the ring finger had a vein that led straight to the heart.
The idea of the ring finger is more than just a tradition. It stems from Greek and Romans who theorized that the fourth finger on your left hand (the ring finger) had a vein that led right to the heart. It was called the vena amoris (the vein of love). Unfortunately, modern science demystified the belief, saying there is no vein that goes directly from the finger to the heart but it’s still a nice thought.

Fact #7: Love potions used to be made with sweat.
Back in the days of yore (think Shakespeare), people would use their sweat as an active ingredient in love potions. Women would carry peeled apples in their armpits to soak up the fragrance before giving it as a treat to men. For men, it wasn’t fruit but hankies stuffed into their armpits that gave them hope of attracting women with their scent.

Fact #8: Many think laughter leads to love.
One theory is that laughter leads to some of the best relationships. It’s been shown that couples who laugh together have a more unique moment, leading to the ability to share a memory of the unique moment and thus a connection.

Fact #9: Love makes us taste things differently.
One study showed that thinking about love can make things taste better—particularly, it can make them sweeter. Participants were asked to write about love and jealousy then eat gummies and bitter chocolate. People who wrote about love said the candy was sweeter than those who wrote about jealousy. Scientists also did a second experiment, repeating the process but changing it from candy to water. Again, those who wrote about love talked about the water having a sweeter taste.

Fact #10: Love makes you lose your focus.
There may not be a specific disease associated with being love sick, but there isscience to show that you’re less productive. People who had high levels of passionate love had decreased efficiency in individual performance. In short, you lose the ability to focus and gain the ability to think about the other person constantly.

Fact #11: Speed dating was created in the late 90s.
The first official speed date was organized in 1998 by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo, who wanted to expedite the process for young Jewish singles to meet each other. Organizers used Excel spreadsheets to track would-be matches. One thing they couldn’t track was how fast the idea would catch on. Television shows centered around speed dating cropped up, even after the company Deyo trademarked SpeedDating.

 

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